No one wants to Harm You

NO ONE WANTS TO HARM YOU

The biggest problem we feel is that some people around us are out to harm us.

This is the bottom line of all problems we face. We feel we have a few enemies in our colleagues, clients, vendors, friends, and relatives.  In fact, the whole gamut of people around us has a few who are on the other side of the fence.

 

While we strongly have this feeling, it is not really true.

No one, I repeat, no one wants to harm you.

Naturally there is a unless attached to it.

Unless, they feel that the only way for them to gain something is by harming you.

How or why should that be there. That someone’s gain is related to your loss. Its not there really. Its only a perception, and a misconstrued one at that.

So the job when we feel attacked by someone, is not to defend ourself, but to become the partner of that someone and searching a way for his victory which doesn’t involve your harm.

And let me tell you, this is much simpler and productive than defending yourself from every attack of the person and waiting for the next attack.

And a more useful outcome of this method is that you will be adding an ally and reducing your perceived adversaries. This doubles your positives, right?

We always try find solution for our problems, and collaborating with this new found ally who has seen your problem from the other side of the table is definitely going to produce the better solution and faster. So get your mind and energies into aligning your so-called adversaries in your direction by guiding them to their solutions and collaborating to achieve your own.